What's happening SA??

In the last week 2 suicide killings have taken place in Cape Town. With the male in the family going on a killing spree and then turning the gun on himself!!

I am saddened by the fact that people feel the need to take the lives of their loved ones in their hands. Where is the sense in that I ask you?? Who has given them the liberty of deciding when their family members should leave this earth?? I'm really trying to make sense of it all, but failing dismally!!

On the one hand I do understand when one goes into a depression, I've been there too. But on the other hand, to kill your children, wife and then yourself?? I know I'm repeating myself here but that's a clue as to the state of my mind. OK, kill yourself but leave the children, they've done nothing to deserve the torture that a parent inflicts on them willingly!!

While we might go into a debate about the psychological state of mind of a person intending to commit suicide, it still won't give us any answers as to why people do so. I will admit that I have had suicidal thoughts, I think we all do, but to put them into action is another thought on it's own.

Which leads me to think about people's spirituality in general. Is that where we are lacking?? Has spirituality taken a back seat in this rat race we call life?? All I know is that children do not deserve to butchered by their own parents!!

America's Supermodels eat your heart out!!

I was so excited on Saturday because we had another Smooches fashion show scheduled. It was the 4th one so far and the 2nd one I was taking part in.

So as the day unfolded my excitement grew. I left my home at about 5pm and took a taxi to my cousin's home. Raafiek picked me up at the taxi drop off point and when I arrived at Shaheema's home, the mad rush began!! Some of the ladies had already been fitted out and were just doing final touches to their hair and make-up. My eldest daughter was to model too, she sure was nervous!!

By the time we had all finished dressing, there were just about 15 minutes left to get to the venue. All the ladies were very nervous, most of them had never done a fashion show before. Nonetheless tensions were running high and there were so many questions!! "How do we walk?? How big is the stage?? How long do we stay on stage??" It was truly madness, but oh so much fun!! The venue was filled to capacity, so the designs would get extensive exposure. And that was definitely the goal.

The music started and the 1st lady hit the stage with wild applause!! Then the 2nd, the 3rd and so forth!! The crowd certainly enjoyed the designs they were seeing. Hmmmm, or was it the absolutely gorgeous models wearing the dresses??!! LOL!! Suffice to say that the show was a huge success!! Shaheema is sure to get a huge response with regards to her Smooches label. She really has been working very hard to make this dream a reality. With her perseverance and dedication her dream will materialize sooner than later!!

Who knows, we could be seeing her being featured at the next SA Fashion Week!! Girl Power rules!! Yeah!!

A sucker for Punishment??

Over the weekend I had a very interesting conversation with a friend. It has been bugging me ever since.

Why do women expose themselves to situations that are of a detriment to them?? Is it because they lack the self confidence or the self esteem needed to identify when a situation is not working for them?? Or is it their fear of being alone??

A couple of months ago my friend found herself in a hopeless situation and was on the brink of total emotional breakdown. She had found out that she was pregnant and to make things worse she was no longer dating the father of the baby!! Well after speaking to her at the time she conceded to telling him about the pregnancy and was greeted with total nonchalant behaviour!! He questioned the paternity of the child and tried everything to not take responsibility for his actions!! Suffice to say he acted like a complete jerk, I'd use stronger terminology but my family reads my blog!! LOL!!

Anyway his actions sent her into a tailspin making me fear the worst!! I supported her all the way making sure that I kept contact as much as I could so as to prevent her from doing anything stupid. The stress she was dealing with was too much for her body to handle and she ended up miscarrying the baby!! That day was a total nightmare!! It had saddened me so because I knew what she was going through, I had 2 miscarriages of my own!! I couldn't be there with her at the clinic but I called her making sure that she was okay. I shed so many tears, for her, for the unborn child and for the idiot of a boyfriend who refused to offer her support when she needed it most!!

Suffice to say she went for counselling and an HIV test which was negative, thankfully!! A few months down the line and now they're dating again!! Hello!! Am I missing something here??? I respect her decision for she is the one who will live with the consequences. But was the trauma that she experienced not enough for her to see that he's just using her?? When I asked her if they had intention of getting married, she said that he wasn't ready. How typical!! Well all my friends know that I don't beat about the bush when I need to say something. And I always do so with the utmost respect and integrity. So I told her that if he was still getting it on with her then why would he!!

She knows that I'm right and she remained silent when I said my say. My last words to her before we ended our conversation was, " Why settle for less?? You are worthy of so much more than he has to offer!!" That is something that should resonate with every woman out there, never make excuses for the relationship you're in if it's not of a benefit to you!! A woman is a jewel and she should be treated as one!!

I'm thinking of you!!

I'm thinking of you

As I wake this morning,
I thank Allah for the new day dawning
And I can't help but think of you

As I go through my tasks for the day,
My thoughts keep slipping away
And I can't help but think of you

You have crept into my heart
Although so far apart,
And yet I can't help but think of you

Are you a figment of my imagination??
Or have we really connected by some stroke of Divine intervention??
Still, I can't help but think of you

Shall I tell you how my heart races,
As I long to see you through a myriad of faces??
So all I can do for now is think of you!!

Another Caffeine High!!

Hmmm, I should stop doing this, I know!!


After having scheduled a meeting with friends who are visiting from JHB, I certainly couldn't back out from getting together with them at Mugg and Bean. The evening before I only got to sleep at 3am and woke as usual at 4;30am to get ready for work!! Yeah, it sure is craziness on my part but what else could I do if I couldn't doze off when I wanted to!!


I felt a bit groggy during the day but when I arrived home from work, I quickly made my prayers and tried to call my friend. Unfortunately I didn't get to speak to him because the phone just rang. He's probably still very busy with the projects he mentioned. Nonetheless I miss him terribly!! Patience sure is a virtue!! Sigh!!

Shanaaz picked me up at about 20:15 and then we fetched Mariam and Nashieka. By the time we arrived at Mugg and Bean I was famished!! Shanaaz and I decided to share a mushroom and blue cheese soup. It doesn't sound very appetizing but we were pleasantly surprised!! I also ordered a smoked chicken wrap and a 'serious cappuccino'. It was most certainly a 'serious' cappuccino, going straight to my head as it seeped into my bloodstream!! LOL!! Suffice to say I was probably not going to get any sleep again!! Mariam and Nashieka shared a yummy Salmon bagel with salaad and cream cheese as well as chocolate cake and lemon meringue!!

Like the saying goes, 'Good food and good company are a rare treasure', (I made that one up, wink, wink!!). Shanaaz and I only met Nashieka that evening but we clicked immediately, speaking about everything from books, movies, the developement of women in general and the state of the country. Nashieka and I are very much alike, especially where reading material was concerned. Her favorite authors are mine too, namely, Stephen King and Dean R Koontz. So when I mentioned that I wanted to go and see the movie 'Room 1408', she was elated to have found out that they finally made a script for the movie!! The horror movie genre was her favorite too!!

So another bond was kindled and will certainly flourish with time Insha-Allah Ameen!! Our time on this earth should be spent with people who inspire and encourage us on a whole!!

Caffeine High!!

I haven't hosted anything at my home recently, but last night I invited my cousins and partners over for pancakes and coffee. The actual reason for the invitation was to discuss the upcoming fashion show the Smooches label was having.

Not that we even got to discussing the show much. We were too busy digging into choc chip pancakes that I had made!! I served them with lots of fresh cream and golden syrup, yummy!! And to make things worse, I made us cappuccinos too!! The caffeine surely went to my head. While the coffee made the others sleepy, I knew that I would certainly not be getting any sleep!! LOL!! I don't consume anything with caffeine normally but when I have guests or go out with friends and family, I have cappuccinos or the likes!!

Nonetheless we really had fun and just chatted about everything in general. And yes the Deepak Chopra interview in the O mag was part of the discussion, again!! LOL!! Like I said previously, when something really resonates with me I won't stop talking about it until I've told everyone about it!

The kids have been on holiday at a friends home since Sunday, so I'm home alone!! And that was another reason for having invited the cousins over, so I would get to spend some quality time with them. Especially Gakiema, we hadn't spoken on a one on one basis in ages!!

Shaheema has an affinity for butterflies, hence the pics of just the crockery!! LOL!!

Absence certainly does make the heart grow fonder!!

How is it that within a short period of time, someone can make such a lasting impression on you that you wonder how you managed without them before???


I've been asking myself this question for the last couple of days and I'm still not closer to an answer. Is it because I wasn't exposed to someone of that calibre and can now recognize it?? Gosh, it's truly a confusing situation I find myself in!! I'm the type of person who isn't taken in too quickly by someone and I don't trust very easily. Like a friend of mine said, I observe silently from a distance and when I feel that I can trust the person that is when I will make my move.


Well now that this person knows how I'm feeling, what's the next step?? All I can do is be patient and wait on a response. But I'm not one to waste my time too, so what I have done is given myself a time frame and if that has expired with no positive response then I move on. While this may seem a drastic measure, it sure will be able to give me closure in this regard. I suppose we all sometimes find ourselves in a situation that is beyond our control. The only way I find helps me is to seek Divine guidance, for surely the Creator knows what's best!!


So my prayer is, "Oh Allah, if this is meant to be, and it is good for me then allow it to unfold. But if it is not then remove it from my path and give me the diligence to accept Your decision, Insha-Allah Ameen!!"